Doubt. We’ve all had it at some point in life. What if I do this wrong? What if I mess up? What if I’m not ready? What if I can’t live up to the expectations? In a way, doubt links us all together. But we can’t stay afloat with doubt. There’s too much weight. And when you’re on a sinking boat, what do you do? You toss overboard everything you can- starting with anything unnecessary. Anything you can live without. I’m not saying it will be easy. But I’m also not saying you have to do it alone. In fact, we should make it a point to help each other throw doubt overboard. Because the thing is, if you make a mistake, if you do it wrong, it’s okay. We all make messes in life. But we’re also capable of cleaning those messes up. So instead of saying “what if I mess up?” Tell yourself “If I mess up, I’ll learn from it. I’ll be able to do better.” “If I’m not ready, I’ll learn how to be ready. I can do this.” You see, I’m not saying life is perfect. I’m not saying you’re perfect. I’m not, you’re not, no one is! But instead of letting doubt question you, reaffirm yourself you can handle it! Reaffirm each other it’s okay! Redirect your doubt to positive affirmations. We’re all going to screw up in life. But what we need to remember is that we are filled with everything we need to accomplish great things in life. And one of those things is the ability to learn! From our mistakes. From others successes. So throw your doubt overboard. Because your sinking ship is surely capable of staying afloat and taking you the distance you dream to go. __a.c.
“This wasn’t supposed to be part of my plan.” “I never planned for this to happen.” “This was never my plan.” These are the phrases spoken by 100% of the population at some point in time. We hear it from everyone. We say it ourselves. Because we think our plans are actually ours to make. But there not! Our plans are not ours to plan. They’re ours to live! And that’s a very important distinction to understand. We did not create the universe. We did not create ourselves. We did not create our bodies or any of the things needed to sustain them. We did not create our purpose. Our passion. Our dreams. We have created nothing of which we think we should control! And yet we have created everything [what we do each day, how we react to what happens to us, our mindset, our way of thinking] of which we think we have no control of! How do you know? How do you know you weren’t supposed to face adversity in life? How do you know you weren’t supposed to face failure? Disappointment? How do you know you were supposed to have a perfect life? That everyone should always agree with you? Like you? How do you know you were never supposed to get knocked down? Sometimes over and over again? To be challenged in life? How do you know everything was supposed to be handed to you? That you were supposed to succeed at everything in life? You don’t! Because our plans is not ours to plan! It’s only ours to live! And just maybe the very things you want are located inside of the very situations you think shouldn’t be a part of your life. But you will never ever discover them if you continue to wake up each day and put blame on God. On your surroundings. On the people around you. On your lack of growth. God did not fill your heart sadness or your mind with doubt. He did not make you ungrateful. He did not place you in a position of failure and tell you that was your permanent home! He did not make you unwilling. God never placed you in a comfort zone and told you to stay forever! He did not place you in an unhappy relationship and tell you you can’t make it better! You did that to yourself! We do these things to ourselves day after day. And then all of a sudden a lifetime has passed us by and we have so very little to show for it. We all have the most amazing ability to wake up each day and change our circumstances. To better our situations. We were given life! That is so incredible. Each day we live is so incredible. So if you can be wise enough to understand that. If you can be brave enough to truly chase your dreams. If you can be focused enough to unlock your happiness. Well, you might just become limitless. You might just end up changing the world for the better. And you might just end up living the life you dream of. __a.c.
I wake up, check on my 9 month old son and then first thing I think about is coffee. Every morning without skipping a beat. My first thought goes to coffee. A warm, lightly dark cup of perfect coffee. Before I can actually have the warm cup of pure goodness in my hand I first have to get up, put my contacts in, brush my teeth, pee, change Ayden’s diaper & play with him for a few minutes. (Afterall, he does come first.) Then I have to walk downstairs, put Ayden in his playpen, make the coffee if it’s not already made, get a cup, put two packs of sweet-n-low and coconut milk in it and then pour the cup. But I don’t think about all that. I don’t think about what my day will look like- diaper changes, cleaning up inevitable puke and baby food, two minute showers because apparently Ayden doesn’t think I need a longer one than that, work, errands, nap times, laundry, reading, bills, writing, traffic, etc.
All I think about is that warm cup of coffee. And it’s enough to get me through the entire day. It’s enough to get me through the routine, which varies day by day. It’s a comforting, necessary, consistent.
That’s what faith is.
You have to work at it to have it every day- some days more than others. But once you have it in your hands, no matter what lies ahead of your day, you’ll get through it. You’ll be able to look back at each point in your day and night, and be comforted because you have it today, and you’ll have it tomorrow, too. It’s like an anchor in your day. The sea may rock and roll your ship, but you best believe you aren’t going overboard. It wants your soul, puts a smile on your face, and helps you over every obstacle you’ll face- because you are going to face obstacles. We all do.
So maybe it’s not the cup of coffee afterall that gets me through the days. But it sure does help. __a.c.
The thought of most individuals when it comes to a relationship is that it needs to be a 100/100 matched effort. That makes sense, right? The only problem with it is that they think that 100/100 match effort only applies to a relationship of themselves WITH another individual. That’s the only relationship they apply it to. That’s the only relationship they set perfect match standards for. But what about the relationship we have with ourselves? See, we all plan goals, set goals, but often, we don’t reach those goals. We give up. We make excuses. Why is that? It’s because we don’t match ourselves. The part of us that caries out goals doesn’t match the part of us that plans and sets goals. That part of us falls short- and instead of holding that part of us accountable like we would another individual who doesn’t match our 100, we just accept it. Don’t accept it. Be in a 100/100 relationship with yourself. It’s extremely possible. And just like your 100/100 match relationship with someone else will make you happier, your 100/100 match relationship with yourself will, too. It will change your life. So give yourself 100%. Because you deserve it. __a.c.
Start to love it -your life. Start to tell yourself that no one else has it better. Start to laugh and smile at the unexpected ups and downs. Start to tell your feet to keep moving forward, except when you stop to stare at the sunsets. Start to put your arms out and spin around in the thunderstorms you get caught in. Start to tell yourself that nothing completely bad can happen to you when you’re surrounded by good people. Start to tell yourself what you have is always enough and what you’ve lost made you better. Start to absolutely love your life. Because you absolutely deserve to! __a.c.
If society was blind for one day maybe we’d stop biting the apple.
If we couldn’t see the color differences, if we couldn’t see a dapple.
Maybe we’d spend less time on the streets and more time in the chapel,
Maybe we’d find more people to be genuine & less to be assholes.
If we couldn’t see to judge another, if we lived like Adam & Eve,
Maybe we’d spend more of our days talking about our happiness & less days about our grieve.
Maybe we’d find ourselves becoming more generous and focused less on the greed.
Maybe we’d discover to appreciate what we have because what we have is what we need.
If we couldn’t see then the media wouldn’t have such a strong hold grip,
And maybe our morals would never start to slip.
Maybe life would be cruising like a cruise ship,
Maybe our hearts would stay whole instead of always being ripped.
If we couldn’t see then we couldn’t point out every difference,
Maybe we’d stop comparing ourselves to others forcing this self hindrance.
Maybe, and I really hope, we’d lose all of our ignorance,
Maybe we’d be accepting instead of being so belligerent.
If for one day we couldn’t see then we could see what life was like in God’s vision.
Ironic as it is, that’s the life we should all be living,
Maybe everything could add together instead of always being division.
Can’t you imagine, Close your eyes to see this vision?