“This wasn’t supposed to be part of my plan.” “I never planned for this to happen.” “This was never my plan.” These are the phrases spoken by 100% of the population at some point in time. We hear it from everyone. We say it ourselves. Because we think our plans are actually ours to make. But there not! Our plans are not ours to plan. They’re ours to live! And that’s a very important distinction to understand. We did not create the universe. We did not create ourselves. We did not create our bodies or any of the things needed to sustain them. We did not create our purpose. Our passion. Our dreams. We have created nothing of which we think we should control! And yet we have created everything [what we do each day, how we react to what happens to us, our mindset, our way of thinking] of which we think we have no control of! How do you know? How do you know you weren’t supposed to face adversity in life? How do you know you weren’t supposed to face failure? Disappointment? How do you know you were supposed to have a perfect life? That everyone should always agree with you? Like you? How do you know you were never supposed to get knocked down? Sometimes over and over again? To be challenged in life? How do you know everything was supposed to be handed to you? That you were supposed to succeed at everything in life? You don’t! Because our plans is not ours to plan! It’s only ours to live! And just maybe the very things you want are located inside of the very situations you think shouldn’t be a part of your life. But you will never ever discover them if you continue to wake up each day and put blame on God. On your surroundings. On the people around you. On your lack of growth. God did not fill your heart sadness or your mind with doubt. He did not make you ungrateful. He did not place you in a position of failure and tell you that was your permanent home! He did not make you unwilling. God never placed you in a comfort zone and told you to stay forever! He did not place you in an unhappy relationship and tell you you can’t make it better! You did that to yourself! We do these things to ourselves day after day. And then all of a sudden a lifetime has passed us by and we have so very little to show for it. We all have the most amazing ability to wake up each day and change our circumstances. To better our situations. We were given life! That is so incredible. Each day we live is so incredible. So if you can be wise enough to understand that. If you can be brave enough to truly chase your dreams. If you can be focused enough to unlock your happiness. Well, you might just become limitless. You might just end up changing the world for the better. And you might just end up living the life you dream of. __a.c.
I had it all figured out. My plan was set, ready to go. I was excited and ready to take on the world. And then slowly, piece by piece, goal by goal, it all fell apart. And I mean all of it. I failed at some, got distracted and forgot about others, and then somehow I found myself with nothing but a broken plan. Dreams never to come true. Not even a new plan to take its place. Just confusion. Frustration. Fear. How could all that planning. All that dreaming. All that work towards it end up with nothing to prove? Nothing to show. And then I realized it.
After much time had passed I finally realized it. I had something to prove. I hadn’t actually ended up with nothing. I hadn’t actually gone on living without a plan & I didn’t even realize it. Because it wasn’t my plan. I hadn’t been wandering around lost in the wilderness of this world. You see I actually ended up with what I needed. What God knew I needed. Strength. Perseverance. Hope. Faith. Love. Positivity. Patience. Understanding. I had all of these things surrounding me. But they didn’t just come to me. They didn’t just fall into my lap. I had to fight for them. I had to give it all I had to get them. And most of these. Most of these things I earned I never even factored into my original plan. College. Career. Money. That’s the plan, right? That’s how we’ll change the world, right? Make our parents proud? But all of those things are gone eventually. The careers end or make you unhappy. The money runs out or loses its value. And then what’s left?
And the ironic thing is, we never plan those things into our lives. We never pencil in strength and patience on our calendars & count down to the days we have left to reach them. And we need them. Boy do we need them.
You see, I had walked out unharmed, and actually stronger after the fire. After my plans came burning down. And that’s worth something. That proves something. That shows something. Because it’s the things you can’t frame that are worth displaying the most. __a.c.
I wake up, check on my 9 month old son and then first thing I think about is coffee. Every morning without skipping a beat. My first thought goes to coffee. A warm, lightly dark cup of perfect coffee. Before I can actually have the warm cup of pure goodness in my hand I first have to get up, put my contacts in, brush my teeth, pee, change Ayden’s diaper & play with him for a few minutes. (Afterall, he does come first.) Then I have to walk downstairs, put Ayden in his playpen, make the coffee if it’s not already made, get a cup, put two packs of sweet-n-low and coconut milk in it and then pour the cup. But I don’t think about all that. I don’t think about what my day will look like- diaper changes, cleaning up inevitable puke and baby food, two minute showers because apparently Ayden doesn’t think I need a longer one than that, work, errands, nap times, laundry, reading, bills, writing, traffic, etc.
All I think about is that warm cup of coffee. And it’s enough to get me through the entire day. It’s enough to get me through the routine, which varies day by day. It’s a comforting, necessary, consistent.
That’s what faith is.
You have to work at it to have it every day- some days more than others. But once you have it in your hands, no matter what lies ahead of your day, you’ll get through it. You’ll be able to look back at each point in your day and night, and be comforted because you have it today, and you’ll have it tomorrow, too. It’s like an anchor in your day. The sea may rock and roll your ship, but you best believe you aren’t going overboard. It wants your soul, puts a smile on your face, and helps you over every obstacle you’ll face- because you are going to face obstacles. We all do.
So maybe it’s not the cup of coffee afterall that gets me through the days. But it sure does help. __a.c.
The thought of most individuals when it comes to a relationship is that it needs to be a 100/100 matched effort. That makes sense, right? The only problem with it is that they think that 100/100 match effort only applies to a relationship of themselves WITH another individual. That’s the only relationship they apply it to. That’s the only relationship they set perfect match standards for. But what about the relationship we have with ourselves? See, we all plan goals, set goals, but often, we don’t reach those goals. We give up. We make excuses. Why is that? It’s because we don’t match ourselves. The part of us that caries out goals doesn’t match the part of us that plans and sets goals. That part of us falls short- and instead of holding that part of us accountable like we would another individual who doesn’t match our 100, we just accept it. Don’t accept it. Be in a 100/100 relationship with yourself. It’s extremely possible. And just like your 100/100 match relationship with someone else will make you happier, your 100/100 match relationship with yourself will, too. It will change your life. So give yourself 100%. Because you deserve it. __a.c.
I looked out my new window To an unfamiliar view.
The changes all at once were
All together coming through.
The trees were different, the sun shine too,
The atmosphere had even changed
And how my life had been before
Now started to replay.
The changes I had planned myself- The life I thought would last
Never even came to be-
No, I was going down a different path.
“But why?” the question wouldn’t leave
Until the answer had appeared.
Why hasn’t anything turned out the way I’d been planning all these years?
As I sat there in silence
and search deep in my soul
I realized where I walked I chose, but what I confronted, wasn’t my control.
God had all control of that-
my God that loves so much.
My God that only wants the best,
my God Whom I fully trust.
And then the new window view seemed not to bother me thereof.
Because no matter where I’d look, I’d still see my faith, hope, trust and love.
So in times of unfamiliarity, of change, confusion, doubt-
Just know that as God’s guiding you,
You can trust your every route. __a.c.
The most unsuccessful thing we did to ourselves was make money a requirement for success,
Because it has people chasing fake dreams while their real ones they suppress,
Which causes a lot of unhappy people and a world full of stress.
What? All so we can step out in a twelve thousand dollar dress?
To socialize with people we have to put a mask on to impress?
Rappers, ballers or a million dollar artist
Leave the only scapegoats for those classroom kids who weren’t the smartest.
So instead of being here to express our God given purpose
We chase a man made success that we know is gonna hurt us.
Money money won’t get you too far get you too far
Unless you’re flying in a jet or driving in your new Rolls Royce car,
But that’s physically speaking and physical strength
Will never be enough to carry you the length.
So chase your TRUE passions, whatever they may be,
Because the REAL definition of success is when your heart is happy.
It’s hard. Life is hard. You will have days where you can’t even imagine getting out of bed. You will have moments where all you can do is cry. You will reach a point where you question everything you’ve ever done up until this point, because you’re sure that at this point in your life you should have it all figured out. You will occasionally wonder why you ever believed in fairy tales and happy endings. You will feel lost. Life. is hard. At times. But it’s not bad. And that’s an important difference to understand. It’s true, there will be hard days. Seemingly impossible days…to your mind. But to God, it’s all part of the plan. Of your plan. A plan that’s already been figured out for you! A plan that you don’t need to stress over, because it’s a beautiful, wonderful plan! And on those days where you don’t want to get out of bed, God already gave you the strength to do it! And it started with the first breath you took on those hard days. On the days where you feel like all you can do is cry, it’s okay because God is teaching you patience. Perseverance. Strength. Things we can only truly understand through the hard days. And it’s through this that we become the fullest version of ourselves. It’s through the hard days that we learn how important love is. How important being kind is. How important the hard days really are. And the thing is, we get through the hard days. Not without a struggle, but also not without God’s help, love and direction. You see, there will be hard days. I want you to know that. But I also want you to know that life is beautiful and full of smiles, laughter, love, hope, happiness. And it’s so worth all the hard days. __a.c.